Psychology
Unhappiness can feel like a safe space to indulge in self-obsession.
It’s easier to dwell on your pain than to engage with the world. Thus Unhappiness.
But the price? You miss the richness that exists outside your inner monologue.
Escaping the cycle requires shifting attention from yourself to something more significant than self.
Happiness isn’t about plastering a smile—it’s about showing up for life beyond your thoughts.
“Unhappiness is attention turned inward. Growth happens when you start looking out.” – Mike Brewer
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Pain Avoidance: The Barrier You Don’t See
Pain is more than a sensation. It’s a strategy.
When we avoid pain, we’re avoiding growth.
That hard conversation you didn’t have? That’s a lesson missed.
What if you stopped treating pain as something to flee and started treating it as something to learn from?
You can’t hack your way around discomfort, but you can walk through it and come out sharper on the other side.
“Your greatest discomfort is usually the door you need to open.” – Mike Brewer
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We remember the ending, not the journey.
That’s duration neglect. It’s the reason you loved a lousy movie with a great ending. It feels impressive even if you were bored for half of your last vacation. I’m not implying you neglect the journey.
Our brains focus on how experiences end. We ignore the length of discomfort or joy. The highs and lows blur into one final moment. This bias shapes how we evaluate life, love, and business.
So what does that mean for you?
It means you can control your narrative. Craft the perfect ending, and people will forget the rough spots.
Finish strong in negotiations, projects, and even relationships.
Your final impression will outweigh everything else.
Life is not measured by how long it lasts, but by how it ends.