Motivation is an inside job.
Extrinsic motivation, the dangling carrot of rewards or the looming stick of consequences, often feels like a useful tactic.
It’s transactional, effective in the short term, and easily measured.
A paycheck, a trophy, or even fear of punishment—these external forces can push someone to act.
But their impact is fleeting.
They fade as quickly as the carrot disappears or the stick moves out of sight.
Intrinsic motivation is entirely different.
It is the quiet hunger that comes from within.
It drives someone to act because of personal satisfaction, curiosity, or alignment with their values.
It’s the runner chasing the thrill of the finish line, the artist painting for the love of creation, or the multifamily leader pursuing a vision they believe in.
Intrinsic motivation sustains, because it isn’t dependent on anyone else’s incentives.
Here’s the kicker: you can’t motivate someone else.
Motivation isn’t transferable.
You can inspire.
You can model passion.
You can create environments where intrinsic motivation flourishes.
But the fire itself must be lit from within.
So stop trying to “motivate your team” or “motivate your kids.”
Focus instead on cultivating meaning and removing barriers.
Then, step back.
“Motivation is personal, not a external prompt.” – Mike Brewer